Lianne Williams

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Welcome to Just Lianne

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Welcome to Just Lianne, my new personal blog project. A tribute to old school blogs where people blogged to journal their lives and interests, and not just to sell something or collect email addresses.

This blog will replace most of the categories I’d recently added to my art blog such as life news, home and style. I’ve loved sharing some more personal bits of my life with you all so I’ve decided to dedicate a whole new blog to it. As you can see I am in the process of transferring those posts over to here. My art blog will now remain focused on art and illustration to support my business, but here I will share everything else and just be Me.

I’ve been blogging since 2003 and it has always been an important way for me to connect with myself and others. Even though Just Lianne is hosted on the same domain as my artwork I am essentially treating it as a completely independent blog with its own voice and style, so expect something different and personal. I hope to focus on what I get up to over the next year, whilst on maternity leave, and explore my other interests beyond portrait art.

The current blogging climate is very different to what I fell in love with and I’ve decided that as much as I need to work with creative brands and share my content online in a professional sense, I also desperately want a place where I can play about and share whatever I want, however I want, without the pressures of providing flawless photography and carefully planned SEO or affiliate links. 

I just want to write.

There is an element of personal growth going on here and getting to know myself beyond my role as artist, wife and mother. This blog is going to be rough and ready but authentic. Primarily it’s for Me. There’s this mantra at the moment where bloggers are supposed to come up with content purely to please their readers and serve their needs. Just Lianne, isn’t going to do that. It’s going to be a rebel. You might love it. You might hate it.

I’m cool with that either way.   

If you wish to receive updates on both blogs you will need to follow both separately as they have their own RSS feeds. There are ‘follow blog’ sign up buttons at the bottom of each blog post on each blog, where you can do that. My art blog is here

One thing I’ve noticed about the blogging community is that it’s become very self focused. It’s all about who’s reading your blog and getting attention for yourself rather then reading other people’s stuff or making strong connections with people. Where have the people who read blogs for fun gone? Do you know what I mean? Nobody is prepared to give anymore without expecting the world in return and I don’t understand that. If you don’t read blogs why should anyone read yours? So yeah, I hope this blog will connect with anyone who’s looking for genuinely interested readers and interesting blogs to read in return without the whole follow train nonsense.

I’m not playing games here.

It’s just not the right place for it. I need something different to all that, something I’m familiar with. And I’ll be supporting and showcasing other blogs that follow similar principles in an attempt to preserve those old-school beliefs that made blogging so unique & intimate in the first place.

If that interests you stick around and share your blog below with a bit about what you blog about. I’ll be honest... I’m only going to read what genuinely interests me, but someone else might see your comment and be thrilled to find you. So share away. I won’t be checking each blogs content to police it but if you’re a very heavy sponsored post/affiliate link blog with an obvious focus on selling things or a sales funnel then you’re not going to fit in here and I politely request you leave us to it. Obviously I’m not going to ban you if you’ve got a few affiliate links or whatever (you hustle away!!!) but the emphasis of your blog should be strongly on writing, sharing and journaling. There are PLENTY of communities for professional bloggers but I want this space to be reserved  for the rest of us.

I am very interested to see where this might lead.

My Happiness Project: JANUARY, 'Self Care'

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There’s one 8lb 3oz reason why I decided to start my 2018 Happiness Project with a month dedicated to Self Care...

This little guy: 

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Introducing my sweetie, Jacob, who joined us on the 29th December 2017 after an absolutely perfect labour/delivery and has been spending the last week dominating my every living moment because he is so damn cute and I can’t put him down even if I wanted to. 

He is now a week old, my older children are back at school and my husband has gone back to work after Christmas and New Year so I'm right in the throng of it all, recovering from labour, dealing with my body going back to it's pre-pregnancy state, hormones, nursing, sleep deprivation and just getting to grips with things like how to use the pram and you know... bonding with this brand new person who's just walked into my life and calls me Mummy.

Basic self care, sleeping, eating, drinking enough water, can all easily get put to one side and from past experience I can recall how much harder that made things, so this time I promised myself that once I'd given birth I would commit to making life as easy as possible for myself and showing myself as much care as I do my baby. 

Welcome January 2018 and the opportunity to put all those things into place.

My Quote for the month?...

'You can't pour from an empty cup'

I've been amazed at how much better I feel when I feed myself kindly, take my iron supplements, drink enough water, take care of my appearance, allow myself a minute or two of silence and solace, napping in the day and weirdly- doing the housework.

Even though I'm exerting a little more energy to commit to doing all those tasks, the pay off of feeling looked after, fed, hydrated, rested, comfortable and organised means I feel happier, and far less stressed.

The task's I've chosen this month cover a variety of self care areas that I wanted to commit to either because I felt they were key to my happiness, or were areas I knew i'd struggle and I wanted to remind myself not to avoid them.

Do the Minimum. But do it.

This is in regards to completing tasks, mainly housework, and it's something I've introduced to my family too. The idea is, don't aim to do everything perfectly, just do the minimum that needs to be done to get a task over and done with as quickly as possible. And most importantly of all, DO IT. Don’t just leave jobs to fester and get out of control. At the end of every day I’m doing a quick tidy up, no matter how exhausted I am, because when I wake up the next day the feeling of being in a tidy, organised space is utter BLISS. 

Heal my body

I have to admit, I didn't have a particularly difficult labour. In fact, I had one of those dream labours you only hear about in hypnobirthing books so I find myself in an incredibly privileged position in terms of recovery. But none the less I still need to heal my body. Pregnancy and labour are intense. It changes you biologically and physically, and all of that has suddenly lurched full speed into reverse. So that means listening to my body and helping it along. It means accepting life at the pace it dictates and loving myself even when my hair falls out or doing my exercises to repair my diastatis recti- which is particularly bad this time. This is a reminder to heal. Take my pain relief. Eat well to sustain nursing. To get comfortable. To say ‘no, I’m busy right now’.

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Sleep

Obvious really? I’m a fussy, light sleeper so sleep right now needs careful maintenance, especially as I’m also the type of person who prefers 8-10hrs a night. I doubt I’ll get that for a while but I also know from experience I can function on 4hrs broken sleep a day so I’m going to aim to give myself 6-8hrs sleep a day, whether that’s at night or through napping during the day. Either way it MUST be an absolute priority. Sleep is essential to my well being and I am on a fast track to misery if I don’t respect it.

Feel beautiful. Indulge yourself. 

For me, I can tell if I’m struggling when I don’t take care of my appearance or forget to indulge myself once in a while. It’s the first thing of my self care regime to slip. This isn’t about deliberately putting myself in the path of inconvenience or expense however, it is about defining what REAL indulgence and luxury feels like to me and that can vary from wearing my favourite lipstick to spending the whole day reading. My indulgences this week have included buying a comfortable nursing bra (why are they so torturously uncomfortable???), treating myself to pate and a walk to the shops. It also forces me to think about myself once in a while, remember who I am, and not get too lost within the label of Mother. Ultimately I’m Lianne first, and that should always be honoured.

Ask for help. Check your ego. 

Making sure I ask for help seemed like a great way to practice self care, but history will testify, this isn’t one of my strong points.  Relying on others, asking for help... it all makes me a tad anxious. Not to mention the fear of being rejected, let down or then ultimately being left to fend for myself anyway. A lot of the time it looks far easier to struggle alone then to ask for help but I know deep down, figuring out how to delegate and trust others to watch my back is vital to my well being right now. This month I’m going to try and explore that and find ways to lighten my load that don’t leave me exposed or uncomfortable. Starting with smaller favours and then dealing with any problems as the occur. Ultimately the buck will always fall on me but if I make sure I communicate my needs clearly, ask for help at the right time, choose the right people for the job, and try and not take hesitation/refusal personally, I think I’ll feel much better relying on others.

Goal

To establish a healthy, happy foundation for more intense tasks later on in the year.